Free StrengthsFinder (ish) Test

So if you ever wanted to try out StrengthsFinder and are feeling rather Scottish (read: penny-pinching), this may be a good option for you.  AND it's printable.


As is most of the internet if you know the right keys to punch, but I digress.  Here's your link:  http://freestrengthsfinder.workuno.c...nder-test.html


And, best as I can fit them, here are my results:

Talent	Strength Potential	Main Objective	Description	Score	Video explanation
1	Student	Learn	Learn to do things to reduce time to performance	People with the Student talent have a great desire to learn and continuously improve; the process of learning, rather than the outcome, engages them.	98	Click Me
2	Thinker	Intellect	Intellect and think to filter information.	People with the Thinker or Reasoner talent are characterized by their intellectual activity: introspective with an appreciation of intellectual discussions.	98	Click Me
3	Solutions Finder	Ideate	Ideate new ways to solve problems.	People with the Solutions Finder talent are fascinated by ideas. They are able to find connections between seemingly disparate phenomena.	98	Click Me
4	Believing	Believe	Believe and doing the 'right thing'.	People with the Believing talent have certain core values that are unchanging. From these values emerges a defined purpose in life.	98	Click Me
5	Visionary	Futurist	Envision a better Future.	People with the Visionary talent are inspired by the future and what could be, inspiring others with their visions of the future.	96	Click Me
6	Personalizer	Individualize	Individualize people to understand their differences.	People with the Personalizer talent are intrigued with the unique qualities of each person. Their gift is to figure out how people who are different can work together productively.	96	Click Me
7	Potential Cultivator	Develop	Develop People's Potential.	People with the Potential Cultivator talent recognize and cultivate the potential in others. They can spot and get satisfaction with the signs of small improvement.	96	Click Me
8	Understand Others	Empathize	Be Empathic to people emotions to help solve them.	People with the Understand Others talent can sense feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others' lives or situations.	93	Click Me
9	Commitment	Responsible	be Responsible in order to complete activities.	People with the Commitment talent take psychological ownership of what they say they will do. Taking responsibility and adhering to values such as honesty and loyalty.	93	Click Me
10	Initiator	Activate	Activate new Projects.	People with the Initiator talent can make things happen by turning thoughts into action. They are often impatient.	93	Click Me
11	Presenter	Communicate	Communicate (messages) information.	People with the Presenter talent generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and communicators.	91	Click Me
12	Integrator	Include	Include left out people to generate Social Improvement.	People with the Integrator talent are accepting of others. They show awareness of those who feel left out, and make efforts to include them.	91	Click Me
13	Consensus	Harmonize	Harmonize in order to solve conflicts.	People with the Consensus talent look for seek harmony. They don't enjoy conflict; preferring to find areas of agreement.	89	Click Me
14	Motivator	Positive	Positive attitude and motivation to move people.	People with the Motivator talent have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.	89	Click Me
15	Group Relations	Relate	Relate in order to integrate groups.	People who are with the Group Relations talent enjoy close relationships with others; finding deep satisfaction in working hard together with friends to achieve a goal.	89	Click Me
16	Prudent	Deliberate	Deliberate carefully to find a safe solution.	People with the Prudent talent take serious care in making decisions or choices. They can anticipate obstacles.	89	Click Me
17	Unifier	Connect	Connect and unite people & things.	People with the Unifier talent have faith in the links between all things. They believe there is a reason for every event.	89	Click Me
18	Recognition	Significant	Get Recognition and be in front of others.	People with the Recognition talent want to be seen as very important in the eyes of others; highly independent, they want to be recognized.	89	Click Me
19	Equalizer	be Fair	be Fair and treat people the same.	People with the Equalizer talent are keenly aware needing to treat all people the same and fairly, by setting up clear rules and adhering to them.	89	Click Me
20	Information Excavator	Information Input	To dig and validate information.	People with the Information Excavator talent have a craving to know more. Also enjoying the collection and archiving of information.	87	Click Me
21	Flexibility	Adapt	Adapt in chaotic environments.	People with the Flexibility talent prefer to 'go with the flow.' They tend to be 'now' people who take things as they come; living one day at a time.	87	Click Me
22	Analyst	Analyze	Analyze to find root causes.	People with the Analyst talent search for reasons and causes. They consider all the factors that might affect a situation.	87	Click Me
23	Planner	Strategize	Strategize; Plan and identify relevant obstacles (to avoid them).	People with the Planner talent create alternative ways to proceed. Given any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns or issues and find a functional path.	84	Click Me
24	Prioritizer	Focusing	Focusing on important things.	People with the Prioritizer talent can take a direction, follow through, making adjustments necessary to stay on track; prioritizing, followed by action.	84	Click Me
25	Organizer	Arrange	Arrange and Optimize resources.	People with the Organizer talent like to figure out how all of the pieces and resources can be arranged for maximum productivity.	84	Click Me
26	Excellence	Maximize	Maximize performance by Focusing on People Potentials.	People with the Excellence talent focus on strengths as a way to stimulate personal and group excellence; seeking to transform something strong into superb.	82	Click Me
27	Confidence	Self-Confident	Self-Confidence to lead or create new ways.	People with the Confidence talent feel assure in their ability to manage their own lives; possessing an inner confidence that their decisions are right.	82	Click Me
28	Historian	Contextualize	Contextualize Situations in order to not repeat the same mistakes.	People with the Historian talent enjoy thinking about the past. Understand the present by researching its history.	80
29	Winner	Compete	Compete with others to win.	People with the Winner talent measure their progress in relation to the performance of others. They strive to be the first place and love contests.	76	Click Me
30	Stucturer	Disciplined	be Disciplined and create routines to avoid rework.	People with the Structure talent enjoy routine and structure. Their world is best described by the order they create.	76	Click Me
31	Foreman	Commanding	Commanding and direct (people).	People with the Foreman or Capitan talent have presence. They can take control of a situation and easily make decisions.	71	Click Me
32	Hard Worker	Achieve	Achieve results.	People with the Hard Working talent have a great deal of stamina. They take great satisfaction from being busy and productive.	69	Click Me
33	Fixer	Restore	Restoration and troubleshooting to solve problems.	People with the Fixer talent are adept at dealing with problems; their give is to figure out what is wrong and resolving it.	64	Click Me
34	Charismatic	Meet People	Meet People to get new relations.	People with the Charismatic talent love the challenge of meeting new people and winning them over; deriving satisfaction from breaking the ice and making connections with another people.	53	Click Me

24 INFJ's Explain The One Thing hey Wish Others Understood About Their Personality

Heidi Priebe writes a great blog specializing on MBTI personality traits.  This one seemed fitting today:  http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/10/infjs-explain-the-one-thing-they-wish-others-understood-about-their-personality/

October 9, 2015

24 INFJs Explain The One Thing They Wish Others Understood About Their Personality

Heidi Priebe

   

INFJs are the deep, empathetic intellectuals of the MBTI world. Making up less than 1% of the population, this type is hard to come by and they are often profoundly misunderstood as a result. This week, I surveyed INFJs on my Facebook page to see what they wish other types understood about them. Here’s what they had to say.

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1. “We aren’t the gods of over-feeling. We have strengths when it comes to empathy, but that doesn’t mean we’re the best. Also, INFJs can be influential in the arts… and the sciences.”



2. “Even though I may give off an intense vibe, I’m really easy to talk to. As long as one is being genuine and honest with me, I will greatly appreciate them for trusting me to show me their vulnerability.”



3. “I understand you because I can strongly empathize with you, but that doesn’t mean that how you feel or think is necessarily how I feel and think.”



4. “No matter how I come off, my actions are usually carried out with good intentions to help or provide insight… but I can be intense… and misunderstood.”



5. “Intuition isn’t magic, or assuming, or guessing. Stop rolling your eyes for a second and I’ll absolutely try to translate what made me think something in a more linear way. It’ll be messy because it’s probably something about people, and people are complicated, but I’ll keep trying as long as you’re patient with me.”



6. “It’s not like we want to be special, hypersensitive and misunderstood. The order of our cognitive functions makes us very exhausted and a lot of us wish they were another type. We have to accept ourselves and it’s not always that easy.”

 

7. “I’m really tired of people telling me I’m too sensitive. Especially when I’m usually their biggest advocate. And also, my strong sense of right and wrong, and attention to detail doesn’t make me a snob.”



8. “Don’t be so willing to let us shut you out. We can be difficult, but encourage us to let you into our strange, spectacular inner world.”



9. “I really don’t have an ulterior motive of personal gain; I really do just want you/the situation’s potential to be realized.”



10. “Our need for peace and harmony can make it difficult to understand our own feelings because we want the other person to be happy. Give the INFJ time to sift through and decide how they really feel about issues.”



11. “There’s more to me than being sweet or my resting bitch face exterior.”


12. “My passion and feelings are not a negative, they are just different from the thinkers ways. It takes time and energy to live in middle, but we do want to live that way… it just takes more energy to do so than others have to expend.”

13. “Though we may appear outwardly confident and self-assured, we are often crippled with self-doubt internally. More than anything we just want someone to understand us the way we seem to understand everyone else. Even having someone sincerely make the effort would feel like enough.”

 

14. “We get stressed and sometimes it’s best to give us our space.”



15. “We may look dreamy and mysterious but we are super perceptive about situations and have clarity regarding how other person’s core personality is. The only one able to fool/delude ourselves is us and don’t lie to us unless you want to get cold shouldered.”



16. “I would always rather spend time individually with each person at a time, than be in a large group where people are competing to talk.”



17. “Don’t treat us like we’re crazy if we do happen to actually let you in, Especially if we’re not as confident in our intuition just yet. It took a lot to trust you and if you take that for granted, you would’ve been kinder to just set us on fire.”



18. “We’re not psychic. We’re not. We are constantly aware of how we imagine people to be feeling, and we treat them as such, and very often we’re right (because of those killer intuitive instincts), but sometimes we’re wrong. It’s not a foolproof thing.”



19. “I’m not actually an extrovert who wants to singlehandedly save all the orphans and bring down corrupt governments. I just cry about not being an extrovert who had enough energy to save all the orphans and bring down corrupt governments.”



20. “I judge myself as harshly as I judge you.”



21. “I am NOT perfect. I just don’t like broadcasting my problems to the world. If I have told you about them, then that means I really trust you, so congratulations to you for getting me to open up.”



22. “We have problems with working out our own emotions from what we perceive everyone else’s emotional state may be. We value truth and genuineness over anything else. The thing is, if we for any reason begin doubting our gut or intuition in terms of relationships because of something you did that broke our trust, things tend to fall apart. We retreat into our heads and obsess over, question, and relieve every event until we are so worked up that the relationship crashes.”



23. “Don’t take it personally if we are really into you one week and totally closed off and hermit-y the next. We still really like you; we just need alone time.”



24. “I sometimes know you better than you do but I’m still always working on finding myself.”

Catch and Release, Build and Tackle, or I AM

Apropos to life, currently.

"But I did not survive to live at a distance from things, and so I began the long and painful process of putting my mitt down, of regaining choice about when and how to protect myself. I began to realize that letting life in was a deeper way to survive...It seems our ability to be authentic and free can't touch us until we breathe our way below the twitch of our patterning. Often, this requires outlasting the anxiety of needing to catch or fix what comes our way, so we can ...truly respond from the center of our being. 
 

There is, after all, a difference between helping someone because if you don't you will lose their love or some sense of your own image as a caring person, and helping someone because your impulse of heart moves you to their aid.

We are, each of us, in a repeatable war between defending ourselves from hurts that happened long ago and opening in innocence, again and again, to the unexpected touch of life."

~Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

INFJ's and Dating

This is an article off of Cacophony.com that totally resonated.  Recently single after an off and on again relationship with a wonderful guy I still cherish, but who wanted a different future, I'm faced with the terrifying prospect of dating (gaaah!  Kill me now!) again.  Or not.  But here's some good insight into what makes this somewhat of a trying experience for us INFJ peeps.  Enjoy!

"INFJ Dating Bible or. How to date an INFJ [Originally from Modalities of Existence]…

This is one of my favourite articles based on the INFJ personality type and was original on the Modalities of Existence site which was unfortunately taken down and is no longer available. Thankfully I had the copy saved away…

INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve compiled a list of points which I think would be of great use to anyone considering dating someone who identifies as an INFJ.

• For most INFJs, omitting or distorting information is equivalent to lying, and at the very least will rouse their suspicion. INFJs have an acute sensitivity for stories which don’t quite fit. At the same time, INFJs also like to assume the best and can be extremely gullible.

• INFJs are adept at nonverbal communication (eye gaze, touching, body language, etc.). Just because they’re not speaking doesn’t mean they’re not saying something.

• INFJs have an extremely complex internal value system. An INFJ will see if you ‘fit’ into their world, and they’ll bend their own rules if they really like you. INFJs tend to have very high standards, but are also very accepting once they trust you and know you’re safe.

• INFJs can be pretty intense emotionally. This isn’t to say that they can get into a heated argument, in fact INFJs avoid conflict, however they are easily hurt and feel very deeply. It’s not uncommon for INFJs to cry if they feel something very deeply.

• INFJs are weird / odd / strange / extremely rare and they very much know it. They yearn to be understood and want to be accepted as they are (as most people do, of course). An INFJ is incredibly complex, so complex they confuse even themselves. They almost always feel misunderstood and ‘hidden’. They will be offended if you pass them off as ‘simple’ or ‘average’. Getting to know an INFJ takes work, so be prepared for that. A lot of gentle enquiry is required.

• INFJs can often mimic other types.

• INFJs are typically better in writing than in verbal communication. If you want to know an INFJ’s true feelings, ask them to write out what they think and feel.

• INFJs don’t typically engage in casual relationships. Most of them will become too attached for it to be possible. If your intentions aren’t serious then you should probably steer clear of an INFJ unless it’s very obvious beforehand that they aren’t interested in a serious relationship.

• An INFJ’s allegiance is no trifle. If an INFJ wants to stick by you, it means they really like you. Do not violate that gift.

• INFJs consciously choose the people that are close to them. They would rather have a few very close friendships as opposed to numerous superficial ones.
  They open up at a dinosauric pace. They typically hold themselves back and consider that behaviour to be part of their nature. They’ve been described as having ‘layers’ which only a select few people are privy to, the closer the layer to their heart, the fewer people are granted access. Do not expect to find yourself in the ‘top tier’ overnight. It often takes months or years to access the deepest recesses.

• INFJs, like other idealists, love harmony. While an INFJ is relatively adept at conflict resolution, they do not appreciate the unneeded creation of conflict. An INFJ will strive for harmony.

• The ‘N’ combined with the ‘J’ in INFJ means that they are future oriented. Do everything you can to make yourself seem like a long-term option. If you become destructively impulsive, an INFJ will lose the ability to see you as a long-term mate, and will become unhappy as a result. INFJs are future-oriented and have powerful imaginations and superb insight.

• INFJs are extremely sensitive. Make sure that criticism is handed as lightly as possible and constructively. At the same time, INFJs love to please their partner, and will work on an issue if presented in the right way. When to be blunt with an INFJ: never. Be honest and direct, but there’s a fine line between direct and insensitive.

• INFJs love helping people. If you’re bad at accepting help (yes, accepting help is a skill), then get ready to have problems. To reject an INFJ’s help is to reject their love, and one of the things they hold nearest to their hearts.

• An INFJ’s ability to help people goes hand-in-hand with their ability to destroy people. Their keen knowledge of people’s weaknessess means they can either help you incredibly or destroy you, however the latter is extremely rare and is only reserved for people they believe have done serious harm to them or others.

• They need patience but they give patience in return.

• They’re curious about other people. To their friends, they are very accepting. However, the closer one gets to an INFJ’s heart, the more their standards will apply to the other person, which can sometimes create issues.

• They often have darker periods where they close up. They can become monk-like and reclusive. It doesn’t mean they don’t like you, it just means they need to recharge.

• They can be stubborn once they believe they’re in the right, especially if it has to do with their values.

• INFJs hardly ever initiate anything. They like it when the other person initiates a conversation, contact, etc.

• INFJs need 2 things to thrive: trust and safety. Trusting you is about knowing that you’re ethically and morally upstanding (or at least in accordance with their values), and feeling safe is knowing that you’ll stick by them. INFJs don’t want to open up to people who might disappear overnight. If an INFJ feels they can trust you and feels safe with you, they’ll be very happy. The only added bonus is to tell them how much you appreciate them.

• Their energy drains when around others. They will need time alone to ‘feel like themselves’.

• Your energy will easily affect them. If you seem unstable, etc., it will seep into them and poison them. It has often been said that an INFJ’s partner has to be strong, and this is generally true.

• INFJs live in a world of fantasy. They can have problems consolidating their idealism with the reality of the world.

Useful quotes from the internet about INFJs:

On truth:
“INFJs are all about deeds, not words. Don’t fuck up anything when you are granted a stage by an INFJ. It may take a long time before they give you that stage. Remember that they are intently testing you at that point. Talk all you want after that audition, providing you pass the test. The conversation will be most pleasant forever after… until you fuck up.
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“Eight years of marriage to a textbook INFJ has taught me the power of truth. I have seen what happens to people who deceive an INFJ. They are dropped like a hot pan.”

On vengeance:
“I do think that’s one of the main features of the INFJ type, vital even: a strong sense of right and wrong; they can’t tolerate wrongdoings of any kind. But at the same time, I’ve observed that INFJ’s attitude over their sense of morals comes in two variants; Jesus-like ones that say “turn the other cheek”, and the badass Kenshin ones that punish wrongdoers.”
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“I have an INFJ friend, who is someone I would never EVER want to piss off, I’ve seen him angry only once in my life, and he goes all out then, lashing out to the point that it’s fearsome and it takes nearly an hour for him to cool down… it would start with him just suddenly becoming quiet and very isolated and then bam! If ever in a war, that dude is on my side as a general!”
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“We go through great efforts to keep everything civil, friendly, and harmonious, and we even allow people a certain amount of “buffer space”. But once you’ve overstepped that boundary or pushed things too far, then BAM! Tactical. Nuclear. Strike.”
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“When someone gets the better of us, and they do so in a way that is not admirable, they become mortal enemies that must be vexed immediately.”
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“I agree with the above. I will take a lot of abuse now, but once I am pushed to a point and feel I have nothing to lose or protect, well, you are pretty much dead meat. I will sit on every piece of ammunition I have and let the offender do their best, and then in the end, I let it all loose.
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If you get on their good side, you have made a wonderful ally for life, and most likely they will use their arsenal to protect you.”
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“I’m an INFJ, and I sometimes mentally play out what I’d like to say to someone I’m angry with, but I have never (and would never) take physical vengeance on anyone. I’m incredibly patient, but do eventually have a point where I will calmly tell someone what they have done to upset me and whether or not I will be able to get past it. If it’s something I can’t get past, that’s pretty much the end of things with that person.”

On holding back:
“My tendency to hold back IS who I am, and I am okay with that. I embrace that.
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Because I am here and my friends know it. I am at my maximum potential when I am taking care of my family, yes, but I have many close friendships I nurture on a regular (every few weeks) basis, and they are almost as important to me.”
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“INFJs take time to open up. They are slow burners. I find I can’t really get to know them until after many prolonged conversations. But after you enter their realm of trust they are the sweetest, most genuine people.”

On Sex:
“If I pursued a lot of meaningless sexual relationships, I can guarantee you I would be miserable in the end. It’s not in my nature. I am 100% aware that I’m someone who has to have a certain level of emotional bonding and trust to have sex with someone, and while I’ve had friends give me a hard time for it in the past, I accept this about myself. I can’t turn that off, and I know it. So, instead of living in denial, trying to be “the tough chick who can have sex like a man,” I hold out for someone who actually values my true nature. If I didn’t do that, I’d only be hurting myself over and over again. Denying your true nature in an effort to be “fashionable” or “modern” or “independent,” in my opinion, really comes back to bite you in the ass.”
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“I can’t see the appeal of casual sex, for me I have to be in a relationship with someone before I’d consider sex with them. Sexual intimacy is much more valued and emotional to me and I do not want to waste that on people I don’t know or do not have a special bond with.”
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“I take care of and very much value my body. If I’ve just met that person, I feel really uncomfortable with the idea of a stranger touching me the same way as someone who respects and loves me. I don’t judge others for what they do with their bodies, but I know what feels right and what doesn’t feel right for me.”
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“Can’t do casual. Must be committed. Feel safe.”

On Feeling Different:
“I have always felt extremely different from others. I know when people are sick, even sometimes right down to what is bothering them. I am automatically drawn to people in pain and instinctively help people through hard times with out even knowing I am doing it.”

On Love:
“INFJs are more “for the cause”, not free-love.”
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“INFJs look scary love-wise.”

Other Useful Quotes:
“If I go to a party, I find that I do latch on to one or two people I feel comfortable with or click with, and try to have a meaningful conversation with them of some sort. I CAN mingle well, but I prefer not too as it’s draining for me. I am not an extrovert so I know I will not be the life of the party, but I do not expect myself to be, beyond making a bold entrance, which I kinda like to do. I like the excitement of hanging back and wondering who will give me the vibe, or who’s energy I’ll pick up on, and if that will be a surprising find, as in someone I wouldn’t ordinarily talk to.”

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